Sex Tips for Boring People: Period Sex, Couples Counseling, and Earlier Climaxes

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Are STIs more transferrable during period sex?

Ladies, how many times have you said to your friends, "Don't worry! We are totally not going to have sex. I'm on my period!"... only to wake up the next morning on top of a bloody towel and Mr. Wrong drooling on the pillow next to you? More times than you care to admit, I'm sure.

Period sex is like the Big Mac of sex: It's sloppy and messy, and you don't exactly feel your best during the experience. But it's just SO GOOD. But with all that additional fluid floating around, is it easier to transmit STDs? Well, kinda.

"Blood is one part of menstrual flow," says Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist of Eros Coaching. "Sharing that fluid genitally or orally does present extra risks of sexually transmitted infections, because you have the possibility of, or increased possibility of, blood-borne infections like HIV or hepatitis. Use a condom if you are concerned about STIs."

How ridiculous is it for an unmarried couple to seek relationship counseling? Aren't pre-marital problems a sign you shouldn't get engaged?

No relationship, no matter how short or long, is perfect. A honeymoon phase only lasts so long before you're left with two very real, very independent individuals with their own sets of baggage. Wanting to work through your issues so that they don't crop up somewhere farther down the road when you are legally bound together is not only NOT ridiculous, it is highly responsible.

But don't take my word for it. Let's hear what the pros have to say.

"It is not at all ridiculous for a dating couple to seek counseling," says Hilary Phillips, a licensed professional counselor with a private practice in Atlanta, Georgia. "Married couples shouldn't be the only ones with access to improved relationship skills. I see couples counseling as an opportunity to learn about yourself, learn about your partner, and learn about the dynamics in your relationship. This information can help improve the relationship you are in, but at a minimum it will help you in the next relationship that you have should you decide not to move on. Because if you decide to move on, you are making a highly informed decision."

How can I get my boyfriend to orgasm faster during blow jobs?

Before I resort to my go-to line of, "Ask him," I see you are looking for some legitimate "hands-on" advice. Communication is certainly important in figuring out what each person likes sexually, and you should be comfortable enough in your relationship to have that conversation. But if you want some practical tips, read on. And remember: You asked.

"First, technique requires some healthy attitudes about sex on his part, but by far the best blow job in the world is the one where your finger is up his butt and rubbing his prostate," says Paul Nelson, a male sexuality educator and advocate, and founder of The ED Coach, a non-commercial site about erectile dysfunction.

"The prostate is right behind his scrotum/penis. Just curl your finger until you feel a bit of a bump. Gently apply pressure with any variation of movement on the prostate. You will probably be able to only touch the base of his prostate. As he gets closer to climax, you will feel the prostate harden and then he will have one amazing orgasm, thanks to your help. Do not ever apply hard pressure to the prostate. And use tons of lube."

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Meagan Drillinger is a contributing writer for Thrillist. Follow her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and Snapchat @drillinjourneys.