Sex Tips for Boring People: PDA, Hanging Out With Exes, and Loose Vaginas

I'll admit that this doesn't look good. PDA in general is quite annoying and unnecessary. No one likes sitting in front of the couple making wet smacking sounds the entirety of your wait in line for a table. (Not that I'm still seething about that, or anything...) But hand-holding, a quick peck, and certainly leaning in while you're dancing are not wildly offensive acts of PDA -- unless, of course, you're dancing at your cousin's wedding. Then you might want to hold off on your reenactment of Next's "Too Close." 

If you've taken note of a noticeable shift in her behavior, that could signal a new development in her mind. Maybe the amount of PDA you want to display has always been a gnawing point for her and as you've been together longer it has grown into a pet peeve that she hasn't voiced to you yet. She might not even be aware that she's doing it. It is also entirely possible that she has other things on her mind -- something bigger than the two of you -- and she's not sure how to bring it up.

If you've been together for three years, chances are you have the communication thing down, so it wouldn't hurt to tell her how you feel. If she can't handle your honesty, you might want to reevaluate if you're getting what you need out of this.

[Insert uncomfortable sound] Is this really something you MUST do? Eighty-five percent of the time this is not going to go well for you in your new relationship (real statistic!). For the most part, girlfriends like to pretend you never had other girlfriends. I've been a girlfriend -- I should know. 

However, the crux of any good relationship should always be trust. And as an independent human you technically should be able to do what you want to do. So if you'd like to cling to that 15% chance that things will be fine, go right ahead. Oh -- and should you find that person who really has no issue with this whatsoever and totally trusts you implicitly, a) marry that girl; and b) still tell her the truth.

If your ex is truly a good friend and there's nothing for your current girlfriend to worry about, the only thing you can do is tell the truth and deal with the fallout. If you lie or stretch the truth in any way, it will only make matters worse for you -- especially if she finds out the real deal from someone other than you. And in today's world of Facebook and Instagram, believe me, she WILL find out. Once she doesn't trust you, good luck, my friend. That is the beginning of the end. 

There's a very real fear among women (and men) that vaginas get loose as women get older. If you're a woman, you're probably reading this while doing your daily kegels. Welp, don't stop now! 

"Vaginal laxity is a real condition," says Dr. Michael Krychman, executive medical director of The Sexual Health Center in Orange County. "Many women do suffer from it... The tissue can become lax with a variety of issues: changes in hormones, decreased elastin and collagen, chronic illnesses like diabetes and nerve concerns, stretching from childbirth or trauma. This is a real medical condition that can impact sexual pleasure and satisfaction. Women also report loss of sensation."

There are some treatment options, though Dr. Krychman says they're not great. "Some women have used some bizarre tightening OTC agents, which impact the vaginal ecosystem. Others have used surgery, which is interventional and has side effects. I also caution women with some of the new lasers that claim to treat everything."

So ladies, keep squeezing. Guys, start practicing your grip. 

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Meagan Drillinger is a contributing writer for Thrillist. All of her dates are tax deductible. Follow her on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter: @drillinjourneys.