As a dating coach, I've worked with singles from all over the world who are totally frustrated by online dating. I tell them the same thing I'm about to tell you: meeting the person of your dreams on a dating app is all about proper marketing.
Basic profiles yield basic results. One badly lit photo, weird facial expression, or empty bio can take you from living happily ever after with the woman of your dreams to being the old guy at the pub that everyone calls "Old Yeller." I scored a fiancé on Tinder -- but almost missed him because he was alone in all of his photos. Did this guy not have any friends? I was about to swipe left, but his profile was intriguing and he was definitely attractive. Figuring I could always unmatch him later I swiped right. But we almost missed each other -- just because he didn't have a good balance of images.
To help you avoid easy mistakes and keep you from spending the foreseeable future alone, here's a four-step plan to make your profile more attractive and land you a date with the person of your dreams.
1. Figure out who you want
Who is your ideal partner? What are their interests? What do they do for work? How old are they? Where are they from? The more specific you are the better -- then you can use your resources to attract it. If you're looking for a beach babe, set your location settings accordingly. When I was single, I opened Tinder in trendy neighborhoods that I liked because I knew that the type of guy I was trying to attract would probably hang out in that area. Sure enough, my eventual fiancé actually lived in one of those neighborhoods.
2. Figure out why they'll want you
The same way you were specific about what you want, it's important that you show you can bring something to the table. Maybe you're a hard worker. Or an excellent cook. Maybe you’re the undisputed karaoke king at the local pub. Make a list of your finer qualities, choose three favorites, and write one to two sentences highlighting them for your profile.