Learn when and how to ask for space
After living together for some time, you’ll inevitably have moments of friction. The key is not to bottle up these frustrations, and instead learn how to ask for personal space, time apart, or whatever else you need.
Duh, communication is important. Everyone knows that. What you might not know is that sometimes rumination is more important. You don’t need to always talk about everything if you can meditate on it for yourself. Sometimes you just need to cool down on (or warm up to) a point of contention.
Dr. Terri Orbuch, a psychologist and researcher at the University of Michigan, found during a 25-year study of married couples that 29% of spouses reported not having enough privacy or time for themselves. The solution is to ASK.
The way to ask for space is hugely important, though. Walking into the living room and dropping an “I need space!” is a sure-fire way to trigger a panic attack. Experts instead advise you to be specific: say things like “I need some alone time this weekend.” Explain why you need the solo time, so that they’re not left guessing.