It doesn't matter if you want to be a clown, kidnapper, or priest: Your fantasy life is the place to explore these desires. It's a safe space. "Wanting to do outlier [stuff] is totally OK because it is in the context and understanding that it is fantasy," Hope says.
Everyone has weird, creepy, or unusual fantasies. Most of us are turned on by the taboo. You can't always act out those turn-ons in real life, so the bedroom is the optimal place for that abnormal investigation.
Have a safe word
Safe words, which became popular among members of the kink community, are vital tools for role play. Using a safe word lets your partner know that something has become overwhelming, frightening, or is not working for you. You can use your safe word without breaking character, thus protecting the integrity of the scene.
"This word should be one that is far from the normal language that you would use with your partner in the bedroom," Hope says. "It would be my suggestion that the word be one syllable." Having a word that's unlike normal bedroom talk prevents confusion if, say, you're acting out a hostage scene and yell, "No!" or "Stop!" -- either of which could be construed as part of the role-playing itself.