Meeting someone on SoundCloud or Spotify is the virtual equivalent of meeting someone at a concert. Connecting over music is usually what I do on a first date anyway, so why not work backward? Spotify has a messaging feature, but presently you can only send songs or messages to people who follow you back. SoundCloud, however has an open-messaging platform. You can even reverse-search a song to see who has liked it.
All I needed to do was pick a song that would best define what I was looking for. I settled on "I’ve been Waiting For Her" by Mac Demarco because a)I like the song; and b) because practically every girl I’ve ever dated really likes Mac Demarco.
I spent hours clicking on profiles, trying to find someone in the city who shared my musical tastes (and relative age). Finally, I stumbled upon a cute Mac Demarco fan in New York City who was also old enough to drink. I sent my message:
Hey this is super weird but I came across your profile while I was looking for music, and you seem cute and like similar music as me, so I was wondering if you'd want to get a drink some time? Hope this isn't too creepy, I'm normal, I swear. -Andy
Her (eventual) reply:
Hi Andy, haha this note is so sweet! I actually haven't been on soundcloud in months so I was super surprised to see a message in my email. I have to give you some points for reaching out on a whim. Do you live in New York?
Of all the apps I tried, my SoundCloud profile is probably the most reflective of my true self. For that reason, I felt the most uncomfortable exposing myself to rejection. But hey -- I got lucky and was deemed surprising instead of creepy. Score.