There will be times when there’s nothing you can do but feel angry at the distance -- seeing your partner once every few months takes its toll. We found some level of comfort just in expressing our longing to each other. And sometimes, that level of intimacy felt like enough to sustain us.
You still need your independence
My partner told me that whenever we weren’t talking, he would keep himself as occupied as he could. He read books, explored neighborhoods, built other friendships. But then there were other times when the thought sank in that we wouldn’t see each other for another three weeks.
There will also be moments of daily life that your partner can’t help you with. If you get into a car accident, have a gas leak, fall ill… They can offer emotional support, but it’s ultimately up to you to learn how to manage those situations.