Limerence is not love
The word "limerence" was coined in the 1970s by psychologist Dorothy Tennov in her book Love and Limerence to describe the early stages of infatuation. According to Tennov, limerence is the reason your heart skips a beat every time your new beau (or belle) texts you; and the reason a day apart can feel like weeks.
In most relationships, the limerent phase eventually gives way to something more comfortable and, frankly, less thrilling. This long-term, less intense feeling is what social psychologist Elaine Hatfield calls "companionate love."
Like its name suggests, companionate love implies commitment, attachment, and companionship; and NOT the insane, can't-live-without-you, can't-think-of-anything-else sensations so many of us have felt. Of course, you don't have to actually be in a relationship to feel limerence. This candle burns at both ends: Limerence is the spark that ignites a relationship... and the house fire in your heart when one ends.