So if you reach out and get ghosted, don't give up hope. They may just not be into you yet.
The "do you have plans?" message
Instagram can be a great singles-trolling app, if you use it right. Just ask Susie and D'Arcy, who used the app to connect a year after meeting at a burlesque party.
"My then-boyfriend and I befriended D'Arcy and his friends [at the party], added them to Facebook, and hung out with the group a couple times after that. My boyfriend and I broke up a year later, and a few months after the breakup D'Arcy added me to Instagram and noticed I'd stopped posting pictures of my ex."
D'Arcy knew it was time to pull the trigger, so he fired off this innocuous Instagram message:
"What's up Susie? Big plans for Canada Day?"
"I was totally weirded out by it and it took a while of messaging before I actually let him take me out for drinks," Susie says. "My ex was actually the one who convinced me to go out with D'Arcy because he knew and liked him as an acquaintance already. I love reading those messages because it's so polite compared to how we communicate today, but I'm also proud of how fucking smooth he was to slide in there."