Where does the stigma come from?
Obviously, there’s nothing wrong with jerking off using something aside from one’s hand.
“I think the stigma exists because guys who are interested in jerking off are considered guys who aren't getting laid, and there is nothing more emasculating on our culture than the idea of a guy who isn't knee deep in pussy at all time,” says writer, Brian Moylan, who has tackled the subject previously.
Regularly exercising that part of the body can actually ward off erectile dysfunction and prostate cancer -- plus, it’s super fun to do. With the benefits of the female orgasm being just as compelling it’s surprising that men can’t get away with even as something as innocuous as a latex mouth hidden in a soda can.
The company Hot Octopuss challenges conventions by steering away from the sex toys that overtly bear a resemblance to the female anatomy, potentially leading the owners of said toys feeling ostracized.
“The majority of male toys have been designed to look phallic and to as closely as possible replicate the action that a man would normally experience with a partner,” says Adam Lewis of Hot Octopuss, “This has led to the perception that if a man uses a sex toy that he must be a little perverted, desperate or unable to find a partner.”
This rings true, too, with men like Brian Sloan -- the guy who unleashed the Autoblow 2 and 3Fap upon the world. “A lot of sex toy companies think they need to put sexual images on the package and I never really saw that.
People’s idea of what turns them on is so different; it’s really limiting to make the product about sexual imagery.”
'A healthy part of sexual expression'
Overly sexual or not, it shouldn’t be an issue for men -- or anyone -- to have their kinks.
“If there was only one way to do any one thing, life certainly wouldn’t be very interesting!” says Steve Thomson, the CMO of LELO, a Swedish brand making huge strides with sex toys, BDSM accessories, and massage products.