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I've been seeing a guy for two months and I'm really into him. I'm realizing there may be some long-term compatibility here and he says he feels the same.
Here's the thing: He can't get hard. At first, he just couldn't stay hard. Now, it's null. We hook up and he does everything he can to get me off (and is very good at it). But he doesn't want me to handle his penis, doesn't want me to go down on him... doesn't want me to even try and get him off in any way because he says he knows it's not going to work.
The two times I've tried to talk to him about it, I could tell he felt awful. Both times, he left my house almost immediately after I brought it up.
I'm a really sexual girl, and our sex life is important to me. What's more, it's making me feel insecure. Is this my fault? We're only in our 20s, and the scarcity of boners is bringing a lot of tension to what otherwise is a really lighthearted new relationship. I don't want this to be a deal-breaker. How do I date a guy with ED without it ruining us?
First of all, I will have none of this self-blame BS about your boyfriend's boner problems. This has NOTHING to do with you, your body, or your skills in the bedroom. Why would a guy date you for two months, get all up in your body, and say he saw long-term potential if he wasn't actually attracted to you? That makes no sense.