Emoji game on point. But her food puns were the stuff of legend. My favorite of her's was this exchange she forwarded to me:
Her: I'm home.
Him: Me too :) I had an eggcellent time. Sleep well and we butter hang out spoon.
Her: Fork yeah. Sleep Sprite, donut let the bedbugs bite.
Him: I can't win this bottle. You're too eggspert. Too eggsperienced. Good night.
Her: I yam the food pun queen, after all. Buenos noches.
Creative asks in profiles yield better messages
In my years experimenting with different types of profile text, I've discovered that incorporating creative asks into your profile can lead to receiving much better messages. A profile without much text will likely result in some combination of boring, useless, and generic messages (or creepy ones, if you're female). Add in something fun and unusual -- like a request for a nerdy biology joke in the form of a haiku -- and you'll be surprised at how willing potential suitors are to let their creative sides shine.
The game is rigged with gender discrepancies
In my tenure, I've received fewer than 10 overtly sexual messages from non-spambot women. That's five years spent on more than 150 dating apps as a male user. Contrast that with one day in 2013 when I created a female profile on a dating app and received 100 messages in the first day, more than 25 of which were overtly sexual, and several of which made aggressively sexual/violent threats.
It's difficult to properly draw conclusions from these experiences, though. Are men more desiring of sex? Are men more willing/shameless about sending sexual messages? Maybe men are less at risk of having their sexuality exploited and therefore less aware of how threatening an overtly sexual/aggressive message can be perceived? Or (I dread the thought) maybe men have actually had success with such messages 1% of the time, and the resultant variable schedule of reinforcement is enough to reinforce and solidify this behavioral pattern? Thoughts?
Dating = social networking
Overall, my experience across so many dating apps has taught me one very important thing: the world of dating is increasingly fusing with the world of social networking. We log into our dating profiles using Facebook. These same dating profiles are now, in many cases, public in search engines. There are even live events dedicated to making fun of people who don't yet realize this new reality in which the things we say on the internet can get publicly rebroadcast in real time.
As a result, it behooves us all to be more aware of the day-to-day realities of interacting with one another in this modern, interconnected world. Yes, to a certain extent, this means being prepared for internet trolls and creepers. But for all practical purposes, a little authenticity and a sense of humor will go a long way.