Apps didn’t kill romance, we did
Despite all the incendiary articles about dating apps, millennial hookup culture, and the death of romance, the truth is, there’s a lot more to why younger generations are waiting to get married or aren’t getting married at all. For starters, the very institution of marriage has declined in popularity, and many millennials feel kind of “meh” about getting hitched. And as women advance as career professionals, they no longer need to date to secure their financial futures. Maybe we’re not dumb at dating and romance in the traditional sense -- perhaps some of us just don’t want it.
Instead of looking at apps as drivers or hindrances of human behavior, we should remember that it’s in fact human behavior that determines the success of any type of technology. If we’re swiping ourselves stupid, it’s because it’s fulfilling some kind of need, which could be anything from the need to get laid to the need to kill some time. Twiddling your thumbs is definitely much more efficient and cost-effective than venturing into public to find a date; but all of these apps are just extensions of our romantic reality. Tinder is the hot-spot bar that’s a little too crowded these days, and maybe StayGo is that really insightful friend that doesn’t sugarcoat when it comes to advice. The only way either one can become harmful is we trust them more than we trust ourselves.