Be direct, not a sketch ball
“Hi, my name's Dwayne and I’d like you to sit on my face,” is certainly a direct approach, but it’s also quasi-verbal assault and won’t land you a bar-side convo OR a date. There’s a fine line between being straight up and straight-up aggressive, and you must tread carefully in order to grab (and keep) her attention.
“A guy once introduced himself to me," says Crystal, 34, "then said, ‘You’re pretty and strike me as the most interesting person here. I’d love to learn more about you.'” This tactic worked on Crystal because the man was a) confident and POLITELY direct, and b) using compliments to genuinely spark conversation in a non-predatory manor.
And, yeah, EVERY girl likes to be told she’s pretty.
Keep your eyes on the prize
Actions speak louder than words. So a well-executed “eye bang” from across the room will peak her curiosity pre-introduction. “A really attractive man walked into the bar and we locked eyes immediately,” says Jacqueline, 27. “For a few minutes, I kept catching him looking my way. He finally came over to take the seat next to me, then said, ‘I need to know who you are.’ I was smitten -- and now we live together.”
Why did this move work? Because the guy didn’t just grill Jacqueline like a porterhouse with his stare from afar. That was just a teaser. After a few exchanged glances, you too must strap on your big-boy boots and cleverly use your words.
Keep it simple
Imagine you’re enjoying a scoop of vanilla gelato; it’s delicious in its simplicity, so there’s no need to douse it with caramel, gummy bears, sprinkles, crushed Reese’s bits, whipped cream, kale, and unicorn tears. Apply the same idea next time you see a hottie but can’t think of a damn thing to say -- channel your inner Adele with a simple “Hello.” Faye, 28, agrees: “‘Hi’ works pretty damn well for me. I’m not for cheesy one-liners!”
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Brooke Sager is an NYC-based contributing writer for Thrillist who in the past, has gone out with three guys who opened up with the line, “You look like Kate Middleton.” Decide for yourself and follow her on Instagram and Twitter: @HIHEELZbrooke.