I've also seen how the proliferation of technology has contributed to that growing feeling of disconnect in relationships. We're living in an age when "quality time" is sitting on different sofas, watching Netflix while we each browse our Facebook and Twitter feeds separately. Our cellphones -- not our partners -- are the last things we touch at night, and the first things we touch in the morning.
To see what tools couples have at their disposal, I headed to iTunes
Which is why, after an afternoon of perusing hundreds of apps for couples, relationships, intimacy, and sex in the iTunes Store (the vast majority of which were apparently created by people who have never been in a relationship or had sex), I settled on Pillow Play.
This app contains a couple dozen audio episodes, each lasting from five to 20 minutes, on topics like erogenous zones, temperature play, appreciation, and massage. Most are designed to be listened to by the couple together, and provide instructions for activities to try.
My husband and I started with some of the shorter fare; five-minute instructionals for simple things like gazing into each other's eyes, hugging, or sharing something about the other we appreciate. These episodes felt silly to be sure (there was plenty of laughing on both of our parts), but at the same time, it was nice to have that time together.