Sex + Dating

Porn Stars Reveal How They Lost Their Virginity

Joanna Angel
Joanna Angel and Small Hands at the AVN Awards | Kobby Dagan/Shutterstock
Joanna Angel and Small Hands at the AVN Awards | Kobby Dagan/Shutterstock

Porn-star sex only looks like that on a movie set. Real life doesn't actually play out the same way -- even for the people performing on said movie sets.

Porn stars aren't all that different from you and me (except of course for the whole paid sex on camera thing). They all have first kisses, awkward dry-hump sessions, and they all lost their virginity at some point -- some more clumsily than others. To prove it, I talked to some porn stars about the tender, weird, late, or awkward ways they lost their V-card.

Wham, bam, thank you ma'am

“I actually lost my virginity in sixth grade, skipped school with a girlfriend of mine, and did it in my bedroom. It lasted a whopping five minutes.” -Seth Gamble

“I lost my virginity to a boyfriend in high school. We had been dating for around two months, which seemed like an eternity. Unfortunately I can't say the same about the sex. But to be fair, it was his first time too. I was just happy to rid myself of it. I think our society's virginity cult puts too much pressure on fumbling teenagers to make something special out of a moment that very rarely lives up to expectations.” -Angela White

“I was at a Christmas party held at a school friend's house. I had decided to lose my virginity to a guy from my class. There was a back room leading off the kitchen, and so we got set to [do] business in there. I laid on my back, he slipped on a condom, and put it inside. After a short time and a few pumps it was all over for him. I remember thinking, 'Is that it?' It was a memorable party, but the Earth didn't move.” -Tanya Tate

"I was in high school. The boy I had been dating had been talking about it with me. One day he showed up with a condom and said, 'Let's have sex.' It wasn't anything special. Looking back, it makes me laugh." -Darcie Dolce

What a difference a decade makes

“I lost my virginity when I was 18. I was the last person on earth to do it. I was shy and nervous, and much more concerned with shutting down factory farms and getting Mumia Abu-Jamal off death row than I was about doing stuff to my vagina. But a very handsome, older band guy took an interest in me when I was about 17. He was super patient and wonderful, I have no idea why. He could have had any other girl he wanted.

"I guess there was something hot about my greasy short purple hair, my pizza face, and my awkward, way overdue virginity. After six months or so, we did it. He's still a good friend of mine. Somehow, 10 years later I was getting gangbanged on camera. There's your anti-climactic virginity story!” -Joanna Angel

Teenagers in love

“I lost my virginity to my high-school boyfriend of three years, in a very conscious way. I decided I was ready to have sex with this 17-year-old I loved (I too was 17). He got me a David Yurman promise ring (to guarantee our future plans of marriage) -- he was very Christian. I was so excited.

"We bought condoms, I got on birth control, and he literally came before the deed was completed. I don't blame him, there's too much pressure on this sanctified moment. We were at my house in Laguna Beach, and I dressed up in cute pink lingerie. I had a great time experimenting and just exploring my teenage sexuality with someone I trusted and loved.” -Tasha Reign

“My first time was with a friend of mine when I was in high school. She and I were incredibly close and had fooled around and explored each other's bodies growing up. One night after a concert, we went all the way while her parents were asleep. It was just as beautiful and romantic as I would have hoped for. She and I weren't girlfriends after that but remain very close friends to this day. She is one of the most beautiful people I have ever known. I feel lucky to have her in my life.” -Aiden Starr

Are you in or are you out?

“I used to sneak out of my house and walk the three blocks to my girlfriend's house to sit at her window (a la Romeo and Juliet). We would talk and make out and talk and make out. We had to be super careful because her father had put nails on the outside of the screen to make sure it didn't get opened. Obviously we got around that part.

"One night, we had that screen off and I climbed halfway through the window and she agreed to give me a blow job which turned into sex via doggy... The funny part was she made me keep half my body OUTSIDE the window, as if to say 'Well, he wasn't ALL the way inside... ' I didn't care. I was getting laid.” -Derrick Pierce

Double whammy

“I lost my virginity twice, I guess? Depends on who you might ask. I was 18 and dating this girl. She had a metal Dance Dance Revolution mat on the floor of her basement, and my head kept hitting it when she was banging me. A League of Their Own was on the TV and it was very cute and very queer. We're kinda bros now and I dig it.

"The first time I banged a dude, I was still 18. It was in a foursome with a different girlfriend of mine, a friend, and her boyfriend. It was super hot because my friend and I had a lot of pent-up sexual energy and I was really really trying to bang her boyfriend. I think my girlfriend left the room at some point because she was bored and left out? I was young and horny. Fast forward like a year and I started fucking on film. I guess some girls just like going zero to 100, I know it can’t just be me!!” -Draven Star

Role play started early

“My first time was with my at-the-time boyfriend Kai. I had known Kai for almost three years, and we had been dating for six months. We went to a comic book convention, I was dressed in a black Japanese winter school uniform, my hair was cut short in a bob, and I carried a wooden sword. Kai was working at one of the booths at the comic convention and we didn’t really see each other until afterward.

"We lived in different cities and this convention was close to his house. It was late by the time everything was done, and eventually we made it back to his place. He put on the film 300, which we spent almost entirely making out for. Afterward he put on Sin City but I never did find out what happened in it. Kai was actually ridiculously well endowed, and my first time was probably one of the most painful things I’ve ever experienced, but we had lots of sex for the next six months that we were together which was much, much better.” -Harriet Sugarcookie

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Jeremy Glass is a writer living in New York City. Follow his Twitter or die trying: @candyandpizza.