Communication is key. I can say this until I'm blue in the face, but when we're really serious with someone, we don't want to question it.
Maybe we're not talking about our anxieties because we're terrified of scaring a partner off or damaging the relationship in unrecoverable ways. Well, calm down!
Bierly says you're not the only one questioning your life choices. "Especially in a society with such a high divorce rate, everyone knows the reality of marriage -- which is that 40% to 50% of marriages end in divorce. It actually makes sense to have nerves."
This did not make me feel better, but it did help me feel less alone.
Knowing whether you've got nerves or actual problems is a question of the gut
Unfortunately and ultimately, you're going to have to trust your heart (and gut) when it comes to your nerves.
Bierly says negative feelings mostly stem from self-doubt and personal insecurity. "If we don't truly know ourselves, it's difficult to say who is a good life partner for us. If you aren't sure if it's feelings of wedding stress or doubts? Try to get in tune with yourself. [Ask], 'Do I typically overthink things and doubt things?' Yes? Well, maybe that's just how you process things. It doesn't mean that your marriage is headed straight for divorce, but do take the time to sit down and have a one-to-one with yourself and be really sure about the decision."