"It's no secret that as human beings we all want to be loved, and fear can sometimes get in the way by allowing us to assume the worst," Adler says. "At the point when anxiety gets in the way of you and your partner's overall happiness, your heart may be sending the red flags you are trying to avoid. Relationships are meant to bring out the best of people and provide health, love, laughter, and content for both sides."
As usual, communication is key
In every aspect of life, from career to love, we put pressure on ourselves and strive to be better.
Yet when we vocalize any doubts about a relationship, we're immediately labeled as doomed. Why is there so much pressure to have a perfect relationship? How can a relationship be normal and have no bumps?
We want to find a love worth fighting for, one we deserve, but that doesn't mean the love will be perfect. "We cannot let things go unaddressed because we are afraid to bring them up to our partners," says Caitlyn King, MFT and co-owner of the West Chester Therapy Group. "A wall of resentment will begin immediately to grow smack dab in the middle of your relationship. This wall starts being built one teensy-tiny brick at a time, yet all of these bricks multiply, and unfortunately, some walls can get so big and solid that they do not come down."