The ruthless hunt for red flags in a relationship has become an obsession that can, ironically, derail a relationship instead of strengthening it. We're so fixated on seeking out flaws, we end up missing the signs that we're at the start of something really good.That's why it's just as important to avoid tunnel vision by keeping an eye out for white flags.
What is a white flag, you ask? If you're bad at context clues, here's a quick explainer: where a red flag requires a negative emotional check, a white flag conjures up the opposite feeling -- feelings of love, comfort, and sweet, sweet surrender. A white flag is when you can completely let your guard down and surrender (get it?) to what's becoming a healthy, strong relationship.
So, to further help you understand and categorize the moments with your partners that make you feel warm and fuzzy, here are some white flags for you to look for.
Sitting on the couch together and not feeling obliged to cuddle
There's nothing wrong with cuddling -- but there's also nothing wrong NOT cuddling. When you've made the commitment of being, well, committed, you don't need to constantly smother each other with physical affection, because the true connection is -- wait for it -- in your brain.