It’s fair for your ex to be upset by the news, but you’re not asking for his or her blessing. He or she is allowed to be hurt or angry. But your relationship is over, and so there is no need to discuss old issues pertaining to it.
If you and ex mutually decide to maintain a platonic friendship, that’s wonderful, but you’ll both need to have plenty of space initially. And if you and your new squeeze truly want to build a future together, you both deserve to give it a chance. You'll regret not doing that, and sneaking around only implies that you are doing something wrong. You’re not.
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Elle Stanger is a mother, stripper, feminist, activist, and author who entertains the masses in Portland, OR. She holds two university degrees, neither of which she utilizes in a conventional fashion. She prefers organic food, dark beer, and self-actualized individuals. Don’t ask her about her tattoos; she’s run out of clever retorts. Find her online at EroticMusePDX.com.