3. Do I get enough vitamin D?
If you rarely venture outside, or find yourself living in a region of perpetual grey (ahem, Portland, Seattle), take a supplement. If your body doesn’t need it, you’ll just piss it out. No worries.
Oregon-based certified intimacy and sex coach Stella Harris suggested, "Sometimes you’re not spontaneously experiencing desire, but you may experience responsive desire. This could mean that a partner’s arousal, or being touched in a pleasing way, or even watching porn or reading erotica might get you in the mood for sex -- you just have to start before you’re feeling it, which may seem counterintuitive."
And remember that none of us go from 0 to 100 all of the time. "It’s important to know that our bodies change over time and our interest in sex can increase and decrease at different times in our lives and it doesn’t have to be a bad thing," Harris adds. "Many people go through periods of celibacy or identify as asexual."
So, you’ve done all of those things, what’s next? Ask yourself this: what was the last thing that got you aroused? I’m a firm believer that the best sex begins in the mind, so let your imagination run wild and fantasize. We all get to live safely within our brains, so if you want to sit on the face of the hot cop that gave you a traffic ticket, or you choose to recall that time that the stripper "really liked you," in the lap dance, grab a bottle of lube and make love to yourself, via your creative fantasies.