"That's where techniques like orbiting (circling the clit), teasing (courting the clit with brief sensations), and/or layering (using the vulva's natural folds, or even clothing, to touch the clitoris through a layer) come in," Fine says. "They offer less direct, but often equally as (if not more) effective ways to stimulate the clitoris."
Myth: The female orgasm is always earth-shattering
I've had guys accuse me of faking very real orgasms more than once. The truth is, not all big-O's move mountains. And that is really fine!
"It can feel as quick and simple as a sneeze, or be earth-shattering," Levine says.
Not all orgasms are the same. But believe me, they all feel good. Just do all the things you need to do to make her come and it will be fine. Chill.
Myth: You can just do your thing and she will come really fast
It stresses me out when I see a sex scene that misleads men into thinking they can just crawl on top of my body and BOOM, I will orgasm. A woman's body is just straight-up wired differently than a man's. It takes effort beyond wildly humping my person.
According to Levine, it can take up to 20 minutes of pure foreplay for a woman to get aroused. "This isn't true for everyone," she says, "but we generally need to put in more effort than men. It's not as quick or obvious."