"It can feel as quick and simple as a sneeze, or be earth-shattering," Levine says.
Not all orgasms are the same. But believe me, they all feel good. Just do all the things you need to do to make her come and it will be fine. Chill.
Myth: You can just do your thing and she will come really fast
It stresses me out when I see a sex scene that misleads men into thinking they can just crawl on top of my body and BOOM, I will orgasm. A woman's body is just straight-up wired differently than a man's. It takes effort beyond wildly humping my person.
According to Levine, it can take up to 20 minutes of pure foreplay for a woman to get aroused. "This isn't true for everyone," she says, "but we generally need to put in more effort than men. It's not as quick or obvious."
Myth: An orgasm is always possible if you do everything right
I can tell you from firsthand experience that this is not true. You can be doing absolutely everything right, your technique can be gold medal-worthy, and it may just not be in the cards today.