According to Levine, it can take up to 20 minutes of pure foreplay for a woman to get aroused. "This isn't true for everyone," she says, "but we generally need to put in more effort than men. It's not as quick or obvious."
Myth: An orgasm is always possible if you do everything right
I can tell you from firsthand experience that this is not true. You can be doing absolutely everything right, your technique can be gold medal-worthy, and it may just not be in the cards today.
Once upon a time, I lost my orgasm for MONTHS. This can happen because of stress, anxiety, a hormone imbalance, or a whole other variety of reasons. Even if you're doing everything right, sometimes it just isn't going to happen. It will come back, just give it time.