We've come a long way since the 1950s, when masturbation could make you go insane and gay people didn't exist. But in spite of our strides, sex remains baffling even a half-century later. Will I be having it? How should I be having it? And with whom?
In short, how can I have a more enjoyable sex life?
To get some insight, I needed experts. So I reached out to those who have been having sex the longest: old people. Oldness is subjective, of course, so for the purposes of this article, I have arbitrarily defined it as beginning around 70 and ending with death.
Here's what they had to say.
Being respectful will get you laid
First of all, you need to respect each other... [If] you're kind of horny and they're feeling, you know, tired, or whatever, just respect that. I think that goes a long way toward having a willing partner when the time is right... Also, it has to be fun. You can't take yourself too seriously. If you take yourself too seriously, and if it's about performance rather than the actual enhancing of the other person, then I think it loses the enjoyment. We still enjoy an active sex life. We're really comfortable. Every two weeks. You learn together. It starts way before you hit the sheets. You can't just, you know, give me hell for something and then expect me to jump into bed and be all lovey dovey. It doesn't work that way. But sometimes you have arguments. You make up, too. -- Anne*, 70, retired Canadian nurse in a 46-year relationship