When it comes down to it, a man who is less attractive than his partner knows he can't offer you a lot in genetics; instead, he amps up the emotional support, reliability, and kindness, which is what women really want anyway.
Inner beauty: not just for soap commercials
Fairytales and Dove commercials have told us again and again that inner beauty is more important than outer beauty, but what does that actually mean?
From my experience, someone's inner beauty is his or her essence. It's how they carry themselves in the world. It's their warmth, their generosity, and -- most importantly -- how they make you feel when you're around them. When I was 15, a hobbit-like guy named John pursued me hardcore at summer camp. Initially, I was put off by his appearance. But as I got to know him more, I began to genuinely like him. He was kind. He had a great sense of humor. And suddenly there it was: I was helplessly attracted to him.