7. Guys who think they’re in the Zone often aren’t
It takes a lot of work for a man to suppress his natural desires to the point that he actually looks like he’d rather be watching Twilight than having sex. That work requires concentration, and if he’s concentrating on that, he may be missing fairly obvious signs that his “friend” is interested in more than an arm around the shoulder.
8. Suffering in silence is so passé
“Today men and women can be more open about expectations, awkwardness, and emotions in general, which makes it easier to navigate situations that can be messy,” says Natasha. In other words, if you feel something, say something.
9. If you really are better off friends, a hookup won’t kill that
There’s just less reason nowadays to fear that you’re going to screw everything up forever. More from Natasha: “A hookup these days doesn’t destine you to a life with that partner. Everyone’s more relaxed about sex. If it’s weird, no one says you can’t go back to just being pals.” Pals who’ve had sex, which is way better than pals who haven’t.