"Whether you're a sloppy kisser who wipes her face with your tongue or one who thinks a dozen rapid bird pecks will fire her up," said Brandy, 40, "a bad kisser will always get a signal by the way she reciprocates. Does she deliberately go slower, does she hold your head a certain way? Does she back off with a confused and disheartened look on her face and then wipe her chin? These are all clues you might want to make a few changes."
Being done as soon as you're "done"
You don't have to spoon and cuddle all night. But showing no affection after the act is just bad form. "Men who don't cuddle or leave right after sex just come off as selfish and socially awkward," said Lisa, 40.
Freaking out for finishing quickly (or not being able to perform)
It happens (see statistics above) -- but we know it's not your fault. "We are all human and sometimes we all finish too fast, not at all, or have trouble with the equipment," said Sarah, 25. "There's no need to add more anxiety to the situation by having a small breakdown." Instead of apologizing and getting upset, keep kissing us and help us finish another way. The more creative and into it you are, the better.