1. Pick up the phone
Before texting and the Internet, the only way someone could contact a love interest was in person, in a letter, or with a live call. While few of us use our phones for voice-to-voice conversations, there is real value in dialing digits -- especially when one considers how many relationships hit unnecessarily choppy waters due to a lack of tone or misunderstood emoji. It's easy to understand the different ways a telephone can make or break a budding relationship. A couple of calls a week -- no need for hours-long evening chats -- will allow you to get a better sense of who a person is. Also, it's so much nicer to actually hear someone LOL IRL.
2. Revive old-school courtship tactics
There are plenty of people bashing Tinder for the "new" (read: highly competitive) dating atmosphere, but the truth is that it has been like this since the 1920s. The only real difference is in how flippant people on dating sites can be, whereas back in the day people actively pursued potential mates. Dates weren't expendable. That earnestness is sorely lacking today.
Upper-class men used to call upon women by presenting a note to her maid in the hopes he might be received in some kind of family gathering. Can you imagine men en masse jumping through those hoops today? Other classes had more familiar courtship methods that would morph into modern-day dating.
Sociologist Willard Waller in 1937 published "The Campus Rating Complex," which described Penn State students using the "dating and rating" system (their version of "Hot or Not") as proof of a person's popularity.
3. Make plans at least three days in advance -- and don't cancel
In the 1940s, it was common for men and women to date someone different every weekend (see above) which required men to ask women out weeks in advance. This allowed both parties to prepare. This practice is a great way to use anticipation to your advantage. Fortunately, we live in a society where the ladies no longer have to sit and wait to be asked out -- so don't be afraid to ask him what he's doing next Saturday.
And don't cancel! Once upon a time, women were groomed to be polite and accept or decline at the time of the invitation. And it was considered very rude to break a date at the last minute. Implementing these common courtesies might be just the shift we need.
4. Leave a little to the imagination
Most of us like sex and want to have it, but there was a time when people knew that going straight for the kill (talking dirty, unsolicited private-parts pics) made them look like a pervert or an ad on a flyer in Vegas. It's not about being a prude, but it's far more seductive to have them wonder where the night might lead (and what they might see and enjoy) than to reduce your sexuality to a graphic spoiler alert.