So, why did you agree to do all this?
Because I really liked Eric. It was that simple. I even went out "girl hunting" with him and a client one time.
Eric and Jeff each had a client, and we all hopped around to five different bars before settling on one that had enough women. The coaches then picked a group of girls and told one of the guys to walk over and start talking to them. After a few minutes, Eric walked over pretending to be the client’s real-life buddy and joined the convo. They did this over and over with different groups of women.
How did you feel watching this?
It was hard not to get jealous because I literally had to stand back and watch my date hit on other women "for work." The girls always drooled over him and not the awkward clients. If Eric wasn’t physically attractive, I truly don’t think he'd be successful at his job. I grew tired of watching, so I went back to his place to get some sleep; around 4am, I woke up to the voices of Eric, his client, and a group of girls in the living room. I was really upset, but he told me it was his job to help his client. What could I do other than accept it?
As a woman, what do you think about this line of business?
It’s shallow and not genuine. Eric claimed it wasn’t about getting clients laid, but from what I saw, it was. He was basically coaching them to tell women exactly what they want to hear so they could score some. For instance, if that client had sincerely been into one of those girls, Eric should have instructed him to get her number and take her out on a real date, not lure her back to his apartment for sex. No one trolls Union Square on a Tuesday for a long-term partner -- if a guy wanted a wife, why would he fly to New York City just for the weekend?
How did things with you and Eric end?
He went out to LA for work for a few months but we still kept in touch while he was out there. When he came back to New York City, he called me from the airport and came straight to my place. I was really happy to see him. After dinner (and sex), we were lying in bed catching up and I noticed he was getting texts from MULTIPLE women. Each girl’s last name was listed as the bar they met at. I felt gross. All those times Eric was sweet to me now felt like a ploy to keep me around on the backburner. He'd even introduced me to his sister, which I naively thought made me special. Because of his job, Eric had the tools and persona to get any girl he wanted, and he used that to his advantage. I decided to let things fizzle out with him. Months later, he texted me saying I had left my scarf at his sister’s house with a picture of it. It was some other girl's scarf, which further showed that I really had just been a number to him.
Do you feel like you date differently now?
Eric really opened my eyes to how much some (NOT all) people will say anything to get laid. Of course I believe there are good guys out there, but I’ve since stopped having one-night stands and sleeping with anyone on the first date. I want to be sure there's a genuine connection and that my suitor isn't just throwing me lines to get me in bed. Oh, also, any time I’m approached on the street now, I’m convinced the guy is on camera.
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