DON’T stalk them on social media
Whether you’re still trying to decide next steps or you already cut relationship ties, now would be the time to unfollow this human on all forms of social media. Facebook “stalking” a loved one is so tempting, and giving in will only cloud your judgment. A harmless Facebook photo of your partner smiling will send you into a tizzy because WHY ARE THEY SMILING when you’re hurt and confused? And who is that girl who commented on it? After an affair, space from the person is important -- virtually and IRL.
DO make an informed, final decision
So you took your time apart and weighed all the facts, variables, pros and cons. What’s your final decision?
If you decide to stay, make sure you AND your partner are 100% committed to repairing the relationship. Consider enrolling in couples therapy to help work through any big changes or bewildering emotions you’ll inevitably experience while reconnecting. Rebuilding post-affair trust will take a lot of patience, time, and energy -- but if both parties are willing to put in the effort, your relationship may come out of the woods stronger than ever.