Lots of women just want a present in the form of slight effort
It's not shocking that women actually want you to care, but the degree to which they want you to give a damn is like so basic, dude. Really, this stuff is shockingly easy. No John Cusack-levels of uncomfortable jam boxing outside of windows required.
"Try to remember something very obscure or something your significant other only briefly mentioned. For example, I use a crap-ton of lip balm, so my girlfriend once got me a pack of my favorite as a gift. Even though we've never talked about how often I slather my lips with that stuff, her gift showed that she noticed.” - Sandra, 26
"Pay attention dude. Women perhaps aren’t the most direct and like dropping hints, but when it’s that high gift-giving season, write down whatever your partner says. Start an email draft or google drive doc, write down any desire from 'cell phone case' to the 'Kardashian mansion,' revise your list, your budget, and get creative.” - Nessa, 25
"Stalk her wish-list on Amazon or Etsy or something (she’s bound to have one if she’s broke). Sometimes, even when I’ve received a present I actually want, I’m disappointed because I feel it was so easy to figure out... I may just be insane.” - Paula, 26
“Plumb those dumb inside jokes -- if you have some weird joke between you two about Marvin the Martian, stick it on the card you're giving her. It's sweet to get something that made you both laugh, and to know your partner cared enough to remember some small detail like that.” - Sido, 23
"I want effort. Show me you put some thought behind it. Make a dinner reservation to a restaurant we’ve talked about or pick up a trinket that reminds you of me or my favorite food that I mentioned months ago." - Colleen, 26
They actually would appreciate the gift of some social media... editing
We don't often think of some slight behavioral changes as a gift, but cutting out some of the more annoying behavior way too many dudes inflict on the social media universe could be the greatest gift of all.
“No more unsolicited nude-y pics on Snapchat. Also, pink roses.” - Yolanda, 24
“I want him to unfollow all his exes on Instagram as a token of his loyalty.” - Jasmine, 25
When you're putting together that perfect date, planning the awesome reservation, and carefully having that gift wrapped by the person with the softest hands in the department store (you checked), you may forget one of the basic things that probably brought you together in the first place. It's not surprising that women want this, but it is surprising that plenty of them value a good romp way above all those fancy plans and gifts.
“If I just started seeing the guy, I want flowers and a lot of sex. If it's my long term boyfriend, then something more meaningful, and also sex." - Siobhan, 26
“Some slow, attentive sex with limited frills but lots of physical compliments.” - Sophie, 28