So we convince ourselves that cheating is somehow OK because our partners didn't do X, Y, or Z. But instead of communicating or putting the work in to fix it, we just fuck it up instead.
If only my early-20s self could hear this right now.
Cheating doesn't mean the relationship is doomed… necessarily
Sure, it's possible a cheater turns out to be a sociopath who doesn't GAF about your feelings. This is very rarely the case -- but when it is, there's obviously nothing to salvage. In other cases, my expert panel says relationships can certainly survive infidelity.
IF both partners are willing to put in the work.
"It's possible for the couple to come out of it better and stronger," Kreizman says. "The couple must sit down and go over the reasons why one person strayed. Both parties must work together to make sure each person is satisfied and will not feel the need to cheat again because they are missing something in their relationship."