Before the whole world was connected by invisible magic, we dated by proximity. That is, your dating pool was limited to people you met near your house, people you worked with -- or maybe the receptionist at your dentist’s office. And with limited access to new people, those who wanted families were much more willing to settle down with someone who might not have been the perfect fit. Because meeting people was HARD.
But making a lifelong commitment to somebody you’re not crazy about isn’t a great idea. Which is what a lot of baby boomers discovered in the 1980s, when divorce rates topped 50%.
Then along came technology. Now we're not limited to friends of friends, or people we meet in bars. Today we can potentially “meet” 100 people while swiping in line at airport security. We can have virtual “dates” with multiple people via message while sitting in our pajamas watching Homeland. We can meet and experience more people than ever, learning what we want and don’t want faster, and figuring out what’s right for us without having to invest as much.
Think of it like applying for a job: if you’ve only got a few applicants, you may not get someone perfect. But if 1,000 people apply you cast a much wider net -- and have a much better chance of finding the perfect fit.