You lost to someone else
“One of the most common reasons I see for someone getting passed over,” Natalia relays, “is that somebody else had better strategy. That includes things like maintaining the momentum (this is huge) and applying better ‘dating etiquette.’ For example, sending a short but appreciative text the day after a date communicates interest and invites them to make the next move confidently, which in turn is very attractive.”
The numbers here work for you and against you. That person you went out with is probably seeing someone else, texting with three more, and just right-swiped on another 12. Competition is tight and almost impossible to disarm -- especially when you get edged out by Mr. or Ms. Slightly More Attractive.
That all said, it’s not really your job to compete. It’s your job to be the best version of yourself and find the person who will lap that stuff up like gravy. This may take some reflection and refinement, and it may also take some extensive exploration. What it certainly starts with though, is a realistic perspective on what -- or whom -- might be getting in your way.