Being a looky-loo
If it’s your first time in The Quarter, you’ve probably never seen anything like it, but that’s no excuse for being a club lurker. "It happens everywhere, but most especially in New Orleans," Thick says. "I have danced in Dallas, Houston, Little Rock, and New Orleans. The frequency of voyeurs in the clubs on Bourbon are exponentially higher. People come in and just sit down for a while and then leave. Never tip a girl or even a bartender. Because of the tourism-driven economy of The Quarter in particular, they see it as not only acceptable, but even expected to get a free show, and it’s frankly insulting."
Acting like the "Anti-Strip Club Guy"
Guys who come in a big group usually contain that one guy who’s just not into the experience, Thick says. If that’s you, there’s no need to take it out on the entertainers, who are literally just trying to make sure everyone has fun. "So many times, a group comes in, and there’s that one miserable ‘anti-strip club’ guy, who will be a complete jerk to any girl who attempts to talk to him," Thick says. "There is never any reason to be rude when we initially approach you. We want to talk and spend time with customers, to help make sure everyone is having a good time. When you try to say ‘Hi’ to someone and they immediately throw a hand in your face, interrupt you mid-introduction, or literally tell you to go away before you have the chance to finish your sentence, it's infuriating."
Forgetting that consent exists in clubs, too
Most men would never just grab on girl on the street, but once they get into a strip club, way too many forget that consent still exists. "Don't assume you can put your hand around my shoulder or waist. Don't assume you can touch me in any way without asking me," Thick says. "We are fantasy for hire, but if your fantasy is being demeaning, rude, and vulgar, and expecting me to play along, I'm gonna need to see some serious cash first. Don't be rapey. I can't believe I even have to say that, but consent is sexy."
Expecting a make-out session
Furthermore, most entertainers are simply not going to kiss you. "Stop trying to make out with us. Men, stop and think. Yes, it's flattering you’re that into it. But if a dancer kissed every guy in the room, we would all be in urgent care with some sort of kissing disease, like tonsillitis or strep. We don't have company-offered medical, so I'd prefer not to spend half a night’s pay in doctor bills."