“I believe marriage in New York City can work in your 20s,” says Kaplan, who is 26 years old and was married in New York last October. “You have to know who you are and what you’re looking for. It comes down to common values and goals. If you find someone who shares that and the chemistry is right, then game over.” That being said, in her work-life as a matchmaker, Kaplan’s clients are mostly in their 30s and 40s (though she does have some clients in their 20s).
“I see a huge spectrum of ages when it comes to getting married,” says Chamblin, the wedding planner. “My clients are usually in their late 20s to mid-30s. I don’t see very many getting married under the age of 25. The youngest I have had has been in the mid-20 range, but 28 to 30 is really where I usually see many of my clients,” she says.
“I have a few 20-something clients," adds Danielle Bobish, a wedding planner with Curtain Up Events. “I think a lot of people are realizing that if they’ve met the person they want to be with the rest of their lives, why wait on that?”
Bottom line: if you’re in New York City in your 20s or 30s and you spend the majority of your time looking at wedding pages on Pinterest, shamefully clicking away when any of your coworkers pass by, take comfort in the fact that you are not alone. It seems it’s something some, if not many, of us actually do want. “True, you don’t come to New York to fall in love, get married, and start a family,” says Maxwell Cooper. “You’re coming to follow a different dream. People are out here for a career, but you can’t avoid having a personal life here. It does happen.”
So basically, New York, it’s time to just fess up. Yes, we are all devoted to Tinder and Bumble and that next swipe, and our careers, and “seizing the moment,” and our Netflix-and-chills. But there is a very real part of the New York psyche that wants that commitment and partnership and all stuff we resent our suburban friends for. We aren’t as different as we’d like to think -- we’re just doing it on our own timeline.